"As women, we are so often socialized to be passive and accommodating in so many situations in and out of the workplace. Being accommodating can look like being compassionate and forgiving on the outside. Energetically speaking, however, something very unhealthy and toxic goes on when we repress rather than observe our natural reactions. Many women in particular seem sweet on the surface, but actually act out of a sense of self-hatred, leading to victimization and a negative, destructive spiral effect. Harming ourselves intentionally prevents us from being able to truly help another at the deepest level, as the action is motivated from violence directed at ourselves, which prevents the compassion we might think we are giving to another from being really true and pure. We must do for ourselves what we do for others and vice versa. Compassion for oneself is really the gateway to being compassionate toward another, just as anger toward another is a manifestation of unrest and violence toward oneself. We are not separate."