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Another Burst of Gratitude...

...goes to Putnam Funeral Home in Kingsland, Texas.

While taking care of business over the phone and by fax the last three days, I have come to appreciate the attitude of the staff at Putnam Funeral Home. Once again they have been respectful and polite but also somehow real and light-hearted. Or maybe a better word is kind-hearted.

When I asked Ray on Wednesday if he was required to hold a memorial service just because my father requested it, he said, “Nope.” That was a huge relief because there isn’t anyone left in his life to attend a memorial service.

When I called today to finish some details, I asked if the cremation had happened yet. The gentleman on the phone (I forget his name) told me that it had been too cold and then went on to explain that crematoriums up north have equipment to keep the gas liquid but down here the gas freezes in this kind of weather. It was an interesting and friendly conversation, and I so appreciate the normalcy of it.

I also requested that they notify me when the ashes are mailed, so I could be prepared. He said they will walk me through the process because they don’t want me to be surprised when I go to the post office or answer the door and find the mailman standing there with a box.

He said, “We treat you the way we would want to be treated in these circumstances.”

Thank You. Thank You. Thank You.


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